Does girl code exist among women? I mean, we all have heard about "guy code".......we all know that guys respect the "ex-gf" as "off limits". Men seem to respect the fact that their buddy's girl....though she may be hot and sweet and all that jazz, it's just wrong to go after that girl.
Women don't seem to have that same "code". I've been watching some younglings lately and discussing this with other adults. These half grown women-children think nothing of passing a guy around like a cute little puppy....pat it on the head and hand it to your friend when you're bored with it.
I'd hate to be the girl who went after my best friend's boyfriend.........stealing him away.....and ruining a friendship. How can you look at the relationship every day and feel good about it????
If a woman can treat a man better than the previous girlfriend did, I think she has every right. I don't think any man should be off limits because someone who was a "friend" dated him first. Especially if the friend wasn't such a great one after all. I think they have every right to feel good about that relationship because they are happy together regardless of some ex-girlfriend that lost her boyfriend because she treated him badly. The girl should also feel proud that she can treat a man as something other than an item that she lays claim too. If anything, girl code should be to stay out of a relationship that is better than your own.
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ReplyDeleteSo....if we apply your theory to this.....and remember, I'm working on a fictional novel.....does this same lack of "girl code" apply to a woman who can steal another's husband away??? Or does the moral compass turn for this because of a ring?
I also am quite amused by the assumption the girls were treating their ex's badly.
For the people I've been observing, this is not exactly the case. More like, oooh la la, I think I want to date that guy, let me wiggle my ass in front of him since his gf is not giving it up.
Well then we are talking on a completely different basis. I was speaking strictly on terms of a boyfriend and girlfriend. No one has a right to steal anyone's husband.
ReplyDeleteSo stealing a boyfriend or girlfriend is okay.........but honing in on someone's marriage is not.
ReplyDeleteWhy is that? Seems like a bit of a double standard to me.......
Oh well, since my best friend would never ever do something like that to me, I suppose I don't have to worry about it. I actually care about my best friend and love her dearly, as she knows. I also think she would disagree with you since a "friend" stole her BF of 14 yrs and damn near ruined her life.
To each his own..........